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Alpha is talking about something that is painful to talk about — being cheat on. In this video men’s style, grooming, fitness, and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of IAmAlphaM https://iamalpham.com/ AaronMarino https://aaronmarino.com/ Pete & Pedro https://peteandpedro.com/ Tiege Hanley https://www.tiege.com/and ENEMY https://enemy.com/ is wanting to talk about when it happened to him. He hopes that what he learned helps you — so you don’t blame yourself like he did. He realizes after therapy that it’s nothing he did ‘wrong’. It’s the other person, and there’s nothing you can do to prevent them from treating you poorly.
Alpha’s cheating girlfriend
Alpha talks about what led up to the time he was cheated on by his girlfriend with her ex-boyfriend. He was devastated, but he allowed it to happen because he was incapable of taking care of himself. He let it go on for 5-years, rationalizing it. He finally realized the situation was insane, and he finally broke-up with her. He was so co-dependent with this person for 5-years, but he knew he needed to cut the toxic ties so he could find someone who appreciates him.
Being cheated on is a lonely thing. You’re dealing with the pain of being cheated on, but you’re also dealing with embarrassment. You feel you’re responsible for the person cheating, but in reality, it’s the cheater’s deal. Regardless, being cheated on still hurts and is embarrassing. For Alpha, he went to therapy realizing he had zero ability to stand up for himself. He went to counseling for a few years, and from that point, everything got better for him. He found his value.
It’s the cheater — not you
We are often collateral damage in other people’s issues — someone cheating is a result of their deep seeded issues. If you’re paranoid and fearful of someone cheating, follow your instincts. If you don’t trust someone, there’s an issue but you shouldn’t go snooping. Once trust is lost, it’s hard (if not impossible) to get back.
If someone has cheated, they are not the person for you. You need to get out of the relationship. Also, two wrongs don’t make a right. Alpha cheated on her too, since she was cheating. It made everything worse. Her cheating is not a ‘get out of jail card’ for you. Don’t cheat! If she’s cheating, your relationship is not right. Alpha cheating as a result of her cheating made everything worse.
Ultimately, forgiveness helps you heal. You don’t feel like forgiving, but you need to do it so you are healthy and your future relationships aren’t affected. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. When you find someone to love and who loves you, it’s amazing. Don’t waste time with a cheater — and do NOT cheat on someone else. Do the noble thing and break up instead.
How to deal with the pain of being cheated on
Decide what you’re willing to endure and put up with. Demand respect. If they cheat, it’s a problem with them — not you. Being cheated on is lonely and painful. Don’t let it destroy you by bottling it up. Find a resource to deal with it and talk through it.
If you’re struggling with ANYTHING that is holding you back, you have to get help and deal with it. You can get counseling that is affordable , accessible, and convenient with Better Help. They are licensed professionals who offer financial aid. Fill out their survey to get matched with the best counselor for you. Sometimes it takes trying a couple of therapists before finding the match for you. Take the next step to being the best version of yourself.