Welcome to the next episode of “Should Men.” Today’s question is inspired by an article I read in Women’s Health. The question is why watching porn is the hottest thing you can do with your partner. So, I will first address whether or not you should watch the movies with her. Then, I will go over the pros and cons and how to bring up the subject so that it’s not awkwardly weird and you don’t get punched in the dick.
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Women + Porn
80 to 90% of men watch porn to a degree. Between 40 to 60% of women do, even though they don’t say so. A bunch of research and studies have asked women if they watch porn, but they say they don’t. Sex therapists and other specialists have also been talking to women on that level, and the percentage, according to them, is closer to 60 to 65% of women watch porn.
Women are not watching the same type of porn as men. Ethical porn looks a lot different than the stuff men watch. You can search ‘porn for women’ and get many different results than what you’d find for men. It’s more softcore that’s less dude-centric with more setup and foreplay.
The upside to incorporating porn into your relationship
- It’s good to watch with your partner. It’s sexy, hot, and gets things started.
- It gives her permission to be free. It allows them to explore fantasies and let their freak flag fly, like after watching ‘Fifty Shades of Gray.’
- You will find that certain things that get you excited also get her excited. You’ll find there’s something that both of you like. You can explore, experiment, and have fun.
- You reduced the risk of you or her leaving and trying to get extra action on the side.
- It may speed up foreplay, which we have talked about how spicy señoritas are like sports cars that need their engine warmed up. If she’s already warmed up, it’s easier for you to take care of business and satisfy her.
- It allows you to mention something you’ve been wanting or fantasizing about. You can potentially integrate it and get ideas rolling in her head. She may be willing to try it.
- You won’t be worried about her snooping on your computer to find out that you’ve been looking at and checking out porn. You can be more open, and you will have a closer relationship.
Some of the cons about porn and your relationship
- She just may not be into it.
- Porn may make her or you insecure or open Pandora’s box, where you may not necessarily want to know what comes out.
- She could get super insecure. Make sure never to talk about how sexy or hot the person you’re watching is. Solely focused on your spicy señorita.
- Your relationship dynamic may change.
How do you bring it up and approach the subject?
- After you ask and she says yes, ask her what she’s into.
- If you ask and she says no, use positive encouragement. Ask if she’d like to try and watch it together.
- If she still says no, bring it up another time.
- If/when she says yes, introduce the softer core stuff first. Search softcore or ‘porn made for women’ or ‘ethical porn.’
