All types of relationships are complex, but the good ones are worth fighting for. They take a lot of work and compromise, but you should never compromise on some key issues. You might disagree with what I say, but I am not wrong. If your friends, family, or significant other are doing any of these, you need to leave.
All great relationships take work, but they also take compromise. However, these aspects that I am covering should NEVER compromised. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you, except toxic people who will ignore boundaries or manipulate you into believing the boundaries shouldn’t be there. Don’t ever let anybody treat you poorly. You deserve to be with somebody who treats you with respect, care, and love.
If anyone makes you feel bad about yourself, get the heck out. Unfortunately, this behavior is so commonplace. If you’re with somebody who talks down to you, lowers your self-esteem, makes fun of you, or holds sex as a reward or punishment, this is not normal. Never tolerate any of these from anybody, especially somebody with whom you’ll potentially spend your life.
Now, if you’re in any relationship that robs you of your joy or happiness (or your dream), it’s time to rid yourself of this toxicity. Many guys have midlife crises because they suddenly realize they are sick and tired of living for somebody else and their dream. They end up going out and banging their secretary, buying a sports car, or doing wild and crazy things because they’re finally able to be true to who they are.
That said, never get pushed into a relationship, marriage, or having children. This is your life, so live it for yourself. Do not allow somebody else to dictate your direction or happiness.
Don’t allow anyone in your circle, even your significant other, to be a sloppy, horrible drunk. If they can’t handle their alcohol, and also they are always the life of the party, there’s a problem. They must get that under control. You shouldn’t be picking up the pieces and dealing with their inability to handle themself. There are too many spicy senoritas or friends out there who are amazing and responsible that you shouldn’t allow a drunk, toxic loser to spoil your life.
Allowing anyone, including your girlfriend, mother, or otherwise, to choose your style should never happen. Your style is your responsibility. Your girlfriends will end up dressing you like her best friend’s husband dresses. All the guys look basic and boring, and so will you. Make sure you put together a proper package that will dazzle her and make her want you sexually.
Related to her spending money to dress you up, no one should make you spend money you don’t want to spend. There’s nothing wrong with buying someone a gift or taking them out to dinner. However, address when the person you’re dating or even friends doesn’t respect your money or financial plan. Also, if you must spend money to make them happy, you must stop. All the people you hang with shouldn’t need money to be happy around you.
Along with that same thought, don’t allow your significant other to be irresponsible or lose money. If she’s always shopping, has no great job, and has a bunch of credit card debt, run the other way. Have your financial house in order, too. Start a side hustle and join a supportive group to help you.
Do not put up with people being jealous of your friends and who you hang out with. Anyone who has an issue with who you hang out with or is mad because of who you spend your time with, there’s something wrong. Further, no one should not try to manipulate your time — that’s abnormal. It’s essential to have friends and family.
So, if anyone tries to alienate you from your family, it’s a red flag. Trying to alienate you or keep you from seeing friends and/or family is toxic behavior. If you’re dating somebody and they try to keep you from your family, that’s a huge no-go. It’s all about compromise.
Finally, if anybody ever slaps, hits, or punches you, this is entirely unacceptable. If she doesn’t want to be intimate or physical with you, there’s also a problem. Also, run away from cheaters. A cheater is broken and damaged; unfortunately, no amount of love or caring can fix them. They’re broken and need to deal with their issues.
At the end of the day, people treat you by the way they feel about you. Don’t be blind to it because no matter how hard you try to push or treat them well if they don’t feel the same, it will only be a colossal waste of time and energy. The people who treat you right do it naturally, not because you asked them to. The more you push in a relationship, the more complicated it becomes. You can’t force someone to treat you well, but you can ensure you get the hell out of dodge if anyone does any of these to you.
