Certain people you automatically like. There’s just something about them that’s magnetic—you’re drawn to them. People with this likeability characteristic seem to have a secret weapon or superpower.
Today, I will tell you what it takes to draw other people automatically to you and immediately like you, where they can’t help it. They won’t know why; they’re not able to put their finger on precisely what you did or why they like you, but it’s just the by-product of doing the things that I will discuss.
To start, share more of your experiences, both good and bad. Today’s world is full of fake sh!t. All over social media, people post highlight reels of their lives that aren’t reality. So, when you meet somebody willing to be vulnerable and honest and show you that they’ve dealt with things you might be going through, it’s very compelling and will develop a deeper connection that’s impossible not to feel.
Here’s an easy one: wear blue. Blue sends the message that you are reliable and trustworthy, which people value those who are both. Is it a coincidence that all politicians rock navy blue? It is deliberate because navy blue makes other people feel like they can trust them. The way we perceive color is amazing. Whenever I talk about ‘bad boy’ style, it’s associated with all black or gray because those shades are viewed as dark, dangerous, and slightly daring. The same thing goes for red. The reason politicians rock red is it signifies strength and power.
Being more energetic and enthusiastic leads to being more likable. It is super sexy, too, but you need to observe and identify how they perceive you first. Certain people are more standoffish, shy, or introverted, so they will not respond as well to intense and ignited people. You must bring it down to a more comfortable level for them, but you can still be animated and encouraging. Also, to be likable, stay positive because nobody likes constant negativity and pessimism. Make others feel good about life and themselves. It’s about being optimistic and cheerful.
This step is quick and simple– take your sunglasses off when talking to somebody. Look people in the eye. We like honesty and respect, so removing your sunglasses relays this message. Now, if they keep their sunglasses on after you remove them, then it’s probably safe to put them back on. But if they do not have sunglasses, I want you to remove them.
Everyone loves receiving compliments. So, to be more likable, give people compliments. Compliments are essential and powerful because they make people feel great! I was at the gym this morning and saw this guy I hadn’t seen before. He had really cool gray hair. So I complimented him on his hair, and his face lit up. My workout partner also noticed the appreciative smile.
Guys typically don’t feel comfortable complimenting other guys, which I don’t understand. Get over feeling awkward and weird giving another dude a compliment and start handing them out. It’s easy to complement tangible aspects such as sweaters, watches, shoes, jeans, hairstyles, and cars.
Starting today, compliment one guy every day. But this can’t be somebody you already know. It must be a stranger or a casual acquaintance from work or school. Get comfortable getting compliments because they will automatically and instantaneously make you more likable.
Being a better listener is critical. Let the other person know you’re paying attention by putting your phone away, leaning in to get closer, looking interested, nodding your head, and asking follow-up questions. Make sure you make eye contact, too.
A huge one that I had to work on was remembering other people’s names. Remembering someone’s name makes you more likable, so I’ve made it a priority to try to get better at it. It’s incredibly likable when somebody remembers your name.
After all this, you cannot become universally likable. Someone will always dislike you for something, such as looks, money, success, or girls. There will always be some reason that is basically out of your control. If you try to be universally likable, you will become weak and not own your opinions or stances in fear of offending others. And nobody likes those guys, so just be you!
