Have you ever met somebody and then started communicating and getting to know each other? You start to like them, and suddenly, they ghost you out of nowhere? How should you handle the situation without becoming your worst self?
Freaking out after getting ghosted
Getting ghosted is even worse than if she rejects you or is uninterested. There’s no closure, and that’s where a lot of times the breakdown happens. Then, we’ll start to connect the dots that aren’t necessarily there or try to answer the questions we have because we don’t have the answers or closure. This starts to freak us out when the reality is that it’s the worst thing you can do.
Anything you do, like sending more texts or trying to profess your love, only exacerbates the problem. You become your own worst nightmare, which is pretty pathetic. It’s a very unattractive trait.
Autonomous men
Women want an autonomous man — self-sufficient. So, realize if you get rejected or ignored, it doesn’t matter. Your emotions and feelings of validation do not come from a woman. It’s derived from being self-governing and not relying on other people to validate yourself and your self-esteem. You have a direction and a goal, and you know who you are.
Being autonomous is the ultimate display of confidence. Not only will she notice you differently, but you won’t find yourself in the situations because you won’t rely on women or act like they’re the last woman on the face of the earth. You’ll see that there are millions of them, so you don’t have to rely on them to give you validation.
Self-validation
When you adopt this mindset and use ghosting as a trigger, you’ll build yourself up because you can focus on things that will facilitate feeling amazing about yourself. Being autonomous means you do not need validation. Sure, you’ll still feel good if somebody tells you you did a great job or that you’re amazing. But you are self-validating.
Once you realize that you are the one who needs to feel good about your accomplishments and don’t concern yourself with what other people think, you will truly unlock your unbridled confidence and potential. You know you are the one person that you need to make happy.
You are the prize
Once you adopt the autonomous mindset, you’ll have all sorts of opportunities, from romantic to career to business and more. You are the prize. So the next time somebody ignores or rejects you, don’t take it personally. Don’t try to solve the mystery. Don’t freak out or overanalyze. Use your energy to facilitate taking action to build yourself into the man she will regret not dating.
