Life doesn’t fall apart all at once. It slowly unravels decision by decision. One compromise here, one choice there, and suddenly you’re stuck. You can be bitter, broke, and divorced. You can get overweight, addicted, and wonder what the hell happened.
I want to cover 10 choices that destroy men’s lives. These aren’t theories or hypotheticals. These are real choices that will ruin your life.
Real choices with real consequences
- Marrying the wrong person. You could set yourself up for a life of destruction, financial ruin, emotional abuse, and unhappiness. Many people fall into the trap of simply moving forward, even though they know it’s not the right thing to do.
- Abusing drugs and alcohol. An occasional use could end up becoming out of control and a bigger problem. Your life is better without it. There’s clarity and rational decisions. You’ll feel and look better.
- Mistreating your body and health. It’s your most valuable asset, and if you don’t take care of yourself, it will catch up with you. Exercise daily and eat a balanced diet. Drink 120 oz of water a day and take vitamins. Live a healthy and clean life. Attend regular check-ups, visit the dentist, and have blood work done.
- Living somebody else’s dream. Men often end up in midlife crises because they wake up and realize they haven’t lived life for themselves. They need to be true to themselves from the start. It’s your life to live.
- Not learning about money. If you don’t learn, you can make some bad buying decisions. Live below your means, be able to obtain low interest rates, and have low credit card debt. Be financially literate so your life is not robbed of joy. Don’t squander the money you have.
- Blaming others. You are not a victim. Take control and ownership to live your best life and because your life is your responsibility. Choose to do the best you can in your life.
- Choosing to stay in a job that you hate. You need to figure it out and resolve the issue. Update your resume and get started making that change.
- Letting dopamine ruin your life. I’m talking about p^rn, TikTok, other social media, and all of those things that give a quick hit of dopamine.
- Cutting yourself off from your brotherhood. Surround yourself with uplifting men who push you further and are not average. Join a community, find a tribe, get engaged. You’re not supposed to be isolated. Look for people who are inspirations and motivations. These people can give you support and camaraderie.
- Settling for a life you did not choose. Don’t just coast through life. Pick yourself up and decide to live the life you want, and one that you will be destined to succeed in. Life will get better. You have one shot at this life, so don’t regret anything. However, remember that failure is an inevitable part of the process. You might be scared because you don’t want to be rejected. But what if you fail? It’s part of the process. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move forward.
