She’s on your mind, but are you on hers? If you implement the strategies I will share, I guarantee she will think about you nonstop, to the point of obsessing. You need to understand, however, that this will take a bit of time because it’s not instant.
She’s obsessing over you because you …
- Take it slow. If you’re truly interested in dating long-term, you must take away the urge to go too fast. Push it down.
- Don’t text all the time. Texting is how we flirt and communicate, but less is more. Don’t fire off 20+ texts a day during the initial attraction phase. You need to be more mysterious and not always available.
- Take a step back. It’s all about timing and taking it slow. She will lose interest if you’re always available or respond to texts instantaneously. Waiting an hour to text her back plants seeds of doubt.
- Focus on yourself. What are things that you can do today to improve yourself? Get a fresh haircut, buy a new outfit, and elevate your wardrobe. While shopping, you can always text her about her opinion on a specific item. It’s a psychological trick to make her obsess about you.
- Ask her fragrance opinion. Asking for her opinion of your new fragrance is powerful because you’re considering her answer, and she has to get close to you to smell it. Use ALPHAM55off to get 55% off your first month at Scentbird. I received Ormonde Man by Ormonde Jayne, Eros EDP by Versace, and Salt Caramel by Shay & Blue London this month.
- Surprise her. Do something else out of the box with your date and have everything planned. Tell her what you want, and don’t ask. Make it memorable. Don’t take her to the movies because they are terrible dates; you can’t talk, flirt, or even have fun. Going for coffee and then going through an interview-type situation is not memorable either. Doing something engaging and active is an incredible way to bond and connect. Be the guy that gets her to do things out of the box.
- Don’t get mushy or emotional. Keep her guessing because uncertainty builds attraction and excitement. Make her work for your affection and attention. You won’t have to work as hard if she’s uncertain whether you’re interested in her. Make it clear that you are your first priority. Many times, if a woman starts stopping talking to a man or doesn’t respond the way he thinks she should, he will overdo it and try to salvage what he thinks he’s losing. It’s all a test that turns men into the worst versions of themselves.
- Have boundaries. You don’t want to be available and hang out all the time. Don’t be afraid to tell her how she should treat you or that you will not accept certain treatment because you deserve better. Don’t be apologizing when you don’t need to. Stand up for yourself, and be a man of integrity and character without kissing her ass.
