Make Your EX (or Crush) Crawl Back to You

October 29, 2024
Recovery from a breakup typically takes an average person 11 weeks. That means you have 3 months to make her crawl back. But let me be clear: I’m not saying she is the one for you or the one you should be with.

If you guys broke up or she dumped you, chances are there’s a fundamental problem with the relationship. But regarding your ego, her wanting you back doesn’t hurt to make you feel better. So here’s my six-step plan to make her come crawling back to you.

Six Steps to Feeling Better After a Break-up

STEP ONE: Zero contact. This means no text messaging, no accidentally running into her, no butt dialing her, or even calling her when you’re drunk. This is zero contact for 30 days. Absence does make the heart grow fonder, but if you are somebody who’s burning up her phone or is always around, she doesn’t have time to miss you. This step is hard because your heart is broken, and you want to connect. You want to explain yourself and have a conversation. But zero contact is incredibly emotionally effective and gives her time to think about you. She doesn’t think about the bad times, only the good times. So she’ll focus on that.

STEP TWO: Self-improvement. Take better care of yourself, which will demonstrate growth. Start going to the gym if you’re not already. Get your body fat down. In 30 days, you could get down 5 to 10 lbs. Combining diet and exercise will make your body look better, and your confidence skyrocket. Your face will become more angular and defined. While you’re doing this, work on your style. Dress well and make sure your clothing fits your body. Taking better care of yourself signals that you’re thriving and not fixated on her. She’ll be curious if there’s somebody else. Another step is to start taking care of your skin. Tiege Hanley will help your skin to look clean, clear, and radiate. Level One is an incredible deal featuring four amazing products that you can use for this 30-day crawl back plan.

STEP THREE: Do not post on social media. You need to go dark. Keep her guessing, thinking, and worrying.

STEP FOUR: Send one text. After 30 days, send a casual and friendly text. Something on committal. Something like you come back from the dead, and she will realize you’ve moved on. Keep it casual and not about anything significant like, “I saw something that made me think of you.” respond with something that she likes, whether or not it was a restaurant or a place that you want together that she loved or had a good time at. This will trigger fond memories.

STEP FIVE: Trigger positive emotions. She will now start to think about the good things about your relationship. This will make her miss you. Remember, she hasn’t talked to you in 30 days and has no idea if you’re dating someone. By being confident and not kissing her ass, she will want you like crazy. Keep everything light and playful. Keep it fun because these qualities are the best parts of you that she misses. After about two weeks of casual texting, you can start to flirt a bit, but not too heavily. After about a week, you could take it more sexual. You could tell her you’ve missed how you did XYZ or that she was the best at XYZ. This gives her affirmation about how good she was and how much you desired her. It gets the juices flowing and her excited. Gauge her interest and slowly build. If she responds positively, build it a bit more. It’s all about gauging her interest.

STEP SIX: Don’t take the bait. Wait for her to drunk dial you in the middle of the night, and then don’t take the bait. This is the final piece of the puzzle where you can reject her after she makes an advance because you have gotten her excited. She won’t get enough of you and will be crawling back to you. If you’re serious about wanting to get her back, you cannot fall for the bait. She’s going to test you by throwing it out there. If you’re strong and able to say ‘no,’ it puts you in a position of power. But if you want to hit and quit it, that’s your choice.

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