By the time a man is 40, he’s either leveled up and is respected or he’s still clinging to dumb habits that keep him lost, broke, and invisible. I’m going over things that a man absolutely has to stop by the age of 40.
At age 40, a man needs to decide whether to continue with the same destructive habits he had when he was younger or reach his full potential. The 40s are a powerful time, and a man’s earning potential is high. Get comfortable in your own skin by stopping these self-destructive things.
These self-destructive actions have to stop now!
- Chasing validation. Buying cars and stuff to prove something to other people means you’re not where you need to be. Stop flexing and start building a life that speaks for itself. Don’t worry about approval from other people.
- Skipping the gym. Muscle isn’t about looking good. It’s ammunition that will keep you strong, testosterone high, and your body looking good. Do not be weak and flabby or have a dad bod. It’s not your genetics. It’s laziness.
- Not going to the doctor. Schedule annual checkups and blood work. By age 40, pay attention to possible health conditions, because if there’s a problem, you’re still young enough that it can often be addressed. If you can catch it early, you can frequently cure it.
- Treating sleep like it’s optional. Quality sleep is not optional. Feel and look your best by getting 8 hours of solid sleep every night. Your mind and body both need it.
- Sleeping around. Random hookups are not where you should be by the time you’re 40 years old. You do not want to live the rest of your life lonely and empty.
- Living without a plan. Have a goal and a north star, as you don’t want to wander around your entire life. Choose a direction.
- Having a terrible diet. Prior planning prevents poor diet performance. Have a plan, which for me is Factor. They make eating healthy easy, convenient, and affordable. I’ve been using Factor for a few years.
- Having a stagnant style. If you want to look good and be respected, avoid looking basic and boring. Take control and ownership of your style and don’t neglect your grooming. You don’t want crazy eyebrows, a scraggly beard, or a massive manbush. Make sure you pay attention to your hair, face, hands, nails, and feet.
- Hanging out with losers. Stop hanging out with people who are not going anywhere, who are not doing anything. Stop hanging out with people who aren’t motivated and not taking care of themselves. Evolve and leave the party lifestyle behind.
- Blaming other people. Your life is nobody else’s responsibility. It’s not their fault where you are. If you want to change your life, take control and ownership of it. Look out for yourself and work hard to achieve your goals.
- Staying at a job you hate. Take a hard look at yourself and change. Learn a new skill and update your resume.
- Not taking care of yourself. Take care of your body and your self-esteem. Nobody is responsible for your happiness.
- Being insecure. Stop being worried about what other people think. Take control of your life and your destiny.
- Stop living for others. Start doing what you need to do to live the truth. At that point, everything will get better.
- Stop chasing dumb sh!t. Stop wasting money. Spending money will not make you happy. And if you’re with somebody who’s not good for you, change.
