As adults, we can learn a lot from young love and relationships, but you are probably not going to like what Aaron Marino of alpha m. has to say. When it comes to relationship advice, it’s much easier for those who are not involved or emotionally connected to a relationship or situation to give a better perspective and solid advice. When our heart is attached, you tend to rationalize things when your head knows better.
Crazy usually trumps hot in the end. Jacob (16 year old) sent an email to Alpha about a month ago about his 2-year relationship. Recently, the relationship turned long distance. She started making new friends who are male. Apparently, her new *friends* get angry when they mention Jacob, which she tells Jacob. Her friends say that she and Jacob won’t last. She asks how he feels when he hears that. Of course, he gets upset but tries to remain cool.
He has every right to be pissed off as it’s a natural emotion. His girl is starting to try to play him like a fool. He has many factors playing against him:
- They are both young.
- They live far away from each other.
- She is telling him about her male friends.
- Trust issues are already starting to come up.
The road will be tough he continues to try to have a relationship with her. You have decide what you want to deal with or not. A month later, Jacob sent a follow-up email asking how to break-up with her without hurting her. Alpha advised for him to be a man, call her, wish her well, and be up-front with her.
Adults can learn from this situation. You have to decide what you’re willing to put up with. Draw that line. If that line is crossed, you have to be willing to walk away. It’s about respect and your own self preservation and dignity. We teach others how to treat us, which goes for your friends, co-workers, parents / family, and the person that you end up in a relationship with. You have to be selfish and understand / acknowledge what you deserve and willing to put up with. So many times, we get into relationships and stagnate. We allow people to treat us poorly.
A relationship has to be cultivated and nurtured by honest communication. It starts with being honest with yourself. You have to try in the relationship. Communication is key! You have to be willing to communicate and be open and honest. Relationships take work. The grass is greenest where you water it and put your attention / focus. If you are committed, make it happen by doing everything in your power. BUT both people have to be invested as it’s a two way street!