How do you know that you’re not a man? Many guys think that once they’re 18 or 21, they have become a man. Being a man has much less to do with your chronological age and more about your mindset. It’s about what you do being a man, which includes accepting responsibilities, doing what you’re supposed to do instead of what’s easy, and not following the crowd.
Unfortunately, in today’s world, many guys are not men yet. They’re still boys, even if they’re in their 40s. When you hear a woman say that a man is a ‘man-child,’ that guy is not making her feel secure or safe. That guy is playing games both figuratively and literally.
Currently, guys need better guidance and male role models, but this won’t change soon. Regardless, you can adopt a more manly mentality and skill set. Take ownership of whatever you decide to do and commit to getting off your ass and doing something amazing. Be the man that you’re destined to be and that you’re able to be. Stop these behaviors holding you back and acknowledge that you can change.
Stop these juvenile behaviors
- Immaturity. What does being an immature male mean? Basically, it’s how a man thinks, carries himself, dresses, and speaks (not using filler words and/or cursing all the time).
- Poor communication. If you don’t have the ability to communicate effectively without awkwardness or are unable to look people in the eye, others will think you’re weak or haven’t grown up.
- Not living independently. If you’re still living with your parents, you look like a little boy. Gauge where you’re at, and be honest with yourself, your age, and your job position.
- Not having gainful employment. If you don’t have a job, career, or direction you’re moving toward, don’t use your age as an excuse. Right now, it’s never been easier to start a business. The White Label Mpire is my step-by-step framework for creating your white-label business idea and getting it up and running in just 30 days.
- Avoiding conflict. Men take ownership and stand up to do what they need to do. Little boys are scared and don’t want to have hard conversations.
- Reacting instead of acting. How do you respond when something happens to you? Is it reactionary, and you get upset and freak out? Do you get scared and run away? Or do you think about it and then take a logical approach to solve the situation? Do you stand up for yourself? These are two actions that separate men from boys.
- Not sticking up for others. Boys are the ones that go with the flow and follow the crowd. They don’t stick up for what they should because it’s hard. Men stand up for their friends, family, and even people they don’t know because it’s the right thing to do.
- Lack of self-awareness. Boys are not self-aware and don’t realize how their actions affect others. Men are more aware of how they act and affect others. They use their words to be empathetic, whereas boys are oblivious to others’ feelings and emotions.
- Self-centeredness. Boys think the world revolves around them. They are worried about themselves and think everybody is worried about them, critiquing and criticizing them. This limits growth and potential. Once you realize that others aren’t thinking about you and are worried about their own issues, you’re free to go after your dreams and goals.
- No growth mindset. Little boys take and take. They don’t give back. They let others take care of them, and they love playing video games, scrolling social media, surfing TikTok, and looking at p^rn. A man doesn’t feed his brain junk food. You feed your brain who you listen to.
- Not having the ability to commit. Boys are always waiting for the next big thing. When something gets harder and more challenging, they don’t want to do it and go for something else. Men know it will be hard and challenging, but they commit, whether to a woman, career path, or dream. This separates boys from men.
